Posts Tagged ‘Foster Care’
She Thought They Were Just Being Nice
Foster teens who have been in crisis after crisis have a very difficult time adapting and feeling loved. Generally, they are more exposed to lifelong attachment issues than other teens. This is the story of one young lady who has been broken many times and how the foster family wanted her to know how valuable…
Read MoreThe Hole of Abandonment
Having so many losses in a child’s life naturally alters their teenage years into adulthood. The need for love is so traumatic that it doesn’t matter the cost involved in getting that love even if it means deceiving themselves. Teens will crave attention, find themselves involved in addictive patterns, and create problems that can become…
Read MoreThe Identity Hunt
Many teens that are adopted or fostered have a huge sense of loss. This loss is a springboard to many other complex issues such as an identity crisis. Not knowing where they originated from, as in cases where a child was left abandoned, leaves a teen with emotions and thoughts of being outcast and unwanted.…
Read MoreSlamming Her Head In Fear
Slamming her head into the floor over and over with hysterical crying, the helper in the toddler room frantically looked for me to come get her. It was only minutes beforehand that I had dropped her off to the class before entering the sanctuary for church. I had not thought of what repercussions there would…
Read MoreI’m An Original
I remember back in school when the teacher asked all the students, “Do you know where you came from?” and would then begin her long study on people origins. This research included your biography and asking questions of your grandparents, parents, and other relatives which culminated into a full report to share with the class.…
Read MoreYou didn’t say that right!
I asked my daughters the other day if I have ever said anything to them to make them feel inferior, stupid, insecure, dumb or worthless. Thankfully their answer was no. However, I cannot same the same for other teens that I know. The words of their parents didn’t fall on deaf ears but listening ones. …
Read MoreWalking Alone
As a parent of a teen in crisis, you often feel alone and trapped without any help or support. But surprisingly there are many others walking alone feeling the same way. As a parent of a teen in crisis, many of us like to keep it private or a secret. For some reason we feel…
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